You have the right to remain silent. Susan Cain says it’s okay. In her book, “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking,” she makes a compelling case for the merits of the quieter segment of our population. I found this book so validating that I would shout about it from the rooftops if I were a person who did that sort of thing. Since I’m an introvert who is more comfortable communicating in writing, I’ll stick to typing up a good review.
Cain posits that our society often values personality over character, and the accepted personality is the gregarious, charismatic, talkative extrovert. While not devaluing extroverts, she argues there’s a place for silent contemplation and explains that introversion has nothing to do with disliking other people. Cain points out how many accomplishments have been achieved by introverts who spent a lot of time alone. For example, Steve Wozniak, co-founder of Apple Computer, who designed the Apple I largely by himself.
For those who don’t have time to read the book right now, here’s a 20-minute TED talk by the author.